No Comparison

It’s funny, but not funny. Some people simply get a shot based on some quality that radiates from them. You know these people because they. are. everywhere. They can speak what’s on their mind without fear. They can repeat the same thing you’ve said four times before and it’s suddenly heard and a “fantastic idea” and “forward thinking”. You stand there with your head cocked to the side biting your cheek trying to figure out what separates you from them, and you realize that you’re always coming in last behind these people.

What you don’t realize is that it’s not YOU. It’s whatever charismatic trait draws people to THEM. This manifests itself in many ways in different environments…

At work:

Maybe you aren’t the type to interject yourself into every conversation around you. Perhaps you don’t give your a career summary before explaining where you’re coming from. It’s even possible that you don’t jump up and down shouting, “I did that!! That was me!!” every time you do your job. You get passed over for promotions and job changes, even though you’re well-qualified.

At home:

Suppose you aren’t heard when you speak. Maybe you’ve realized that you’re not part of the “cool moms”. You may even be a single mom who has nothing in common with other mamas. Maybe you just want to nap and feel antisocial.

In relationships:

You are passed over because you’re loyal, but not classically beautiful. Perhaps you’ve been friend-zoned more times than you can count. You come in second because you’re not “as pretty” or “as thin” or whatever reason as the other person.

It’s all about comparisons. We compare ourselves to others. Others compare us to different groups. We alienate ourselves – and each other. How is it possible to compare two unique humans created by God to serve individual purposes? Can we really say God loves one person more than another? The answer is no.

God created us all to be unique. He didn’t create clones. He wants us to be His hands and feet, to grow His Kingdom. Period. He needs us to be who He created us to be so that we can fulfill His plans. We each have our unique talents and gifts. To say a gift is better than another is ridiculous because I am convinced each of our gifts fits together to form a beautiful picture.

You have people who are not afraid of being the face of His purpose, and people who would rather remain behind the scenes. Some people are unafraid of approaching others to evangelize, where others would rather show God’s love through silent actions.

He made us this way; not to compare, but to complement. One person’s strength paired with another person’s weakness fits together perfectly, and the relationships that are built based on this kind of partnership encourages both people in their walk with Christ.

We. all. fit. together. Perfectly. In His image.


Galatians 1:10  Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. (NIV)

2 Corinthians 10:12 We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise. (NIV)

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